Friendships and Relationships is all about trying. The definition of trying according to dictionary.com is , "to put it to a severe test" or "to make an effort". It's my theory that most friendships and relationships( i'm just gonna say relationships now, which means both.) fail because people stop trying, or get delusional from trying. Lemme attempt to pen my thought down now.

Being humans, we can try all the time, but there is a point in time when we break, or just feel like throwing everything away. Well that's where the other party comes in and encourages. But then even if the other party tries, one can still be closed. Meaning that He/She has decided that it's not worth it anymore.

Jesus is always with us. We acknowledge that fact. But why does it seem sometimes we cannot feel His presence, worst still, we dont want His presence with us. So does that mean God has given up on us because we cannot feel His presence? i believe it comes down to us actually. We subconsciously detach ourselves from him and that's why we cannot feel his presence sometimes. But that never meant He stopped loving us, he was just waiting for us to come to the knowledge tht we need him.

Another point. No one said believing in Jesus was easy. It doesnt' mean once you invite Jesus to come into your life, the flowers start to bloom, and everything will be ok. Well that could happen, but it is an overflow of His love for you, not a definite. And after all the hype and the honeymoon period, i'm gonna be honest and say that it takes alot of effort to maintain that relationship, many of us figured well if we love God, then doing what is right or doing QT comes to us naturally, well it is actually a deliberate action we take, BECAUSE we love God.

So i guess to me it's the same in relationships, after the honeymoon period is over, it really does take an extra effort to go up to a friend and just ask "Hey, how's your day, wanna share?". Then some people might argue that i am superficial and not sincerely asking. Well ask yourself then.. it does take effort.

Ok last point of this post. i'm talking in terms of 2 friends. lets give them names. George(Boy) and Nickky(Girl). Lets say they came to a point where they had a disagreement and Nickky just kinda gives up on the friendship.. Well i think George should put in an effort and go the extra mile for Nickky, i mean sometimes as friends we really just expect the other party to put in extra effort when we're feeling so crappy, but i guess Nickky should also be receptive to the fact that George puts in effort and should be open too. The problem comes when Nickky is emo, and George cannot really be bothered. And there ends a once close friendship:( all this hypothetically speaking la.

You know if i ever read this post again i think i'm going to be so embarrassed and regret posting, but who cares!